Is it hard for you to say “no” when someone selling something approaches you? Is it hard for you to say “no” when a neighbor asks you to do something you don’t have time for or you don’t want to do? Is it hard for you to say “no” when a friend asks something of you that you know deep down that you can’t give or do? Is it hard for you to say “no” when your church signs you up for another activity or responsibility? Is it hard for you to say “no” when your parents tell you to do something and you know it’s not in your best interest at this time (disclaimer: I am speaking to adults with adult parents J)? Is it hard for you to say “no” when your child wants something and you just can’t afford it even though they might deserve it? That one is probably the hardest “no” we have the hardest time uttering out of our mouth. Needless to say in this day in age we have such a hard time saying those 2 powerful letters. There is so much that word means and it can be said for so many different occasions and conversations. I feel that “no” is needed more now in this society and it starts in our homes, so if you are a parent I am talking to you, I have 5 boys so I am talking to me as well. Don’t underestimate those 2 powerful letters because they can prevent a lot of frustration and pain. “No” gives us a strong sense of power, but also direction. I am sure you can think of many scenarios were you have said “no” and you felt happy that you said it, but more likely you can remember when you didn’t say “no” and you should’ve and it caused you to have a bad attitude and even fester to where you are apologizing for the feelings you might have toward a situation or person. Now, with all this said we seem to struggle with boundaries no matter if they are ours or someone else. The word “no” for the majority of the time isn’t meant to be an offensive word but a clarifying word that doesn’t show emotion, but direction without assumption. Now “NO” can and should absolutely be used in situations that you need to get away from, which again should be respected and heeded immediately. Keep in mind that the word “no” is a complete sentence and is a full answer.
I hope you think of this blog the next time someone says “no” to you and don’t get offended, but understand that it is a straight forward answer that you can’t get confused about the meaning, so what I am saying is don’t read into the word “no” especially with your loved ones. I also hope you think of this blog when it’s time for you to utter those 2 very difficult letters “NO.” Don’t think of what they are thinking but know that you are taking this stand for a good reason and its best for you and your family at this current time.
You can do it!
But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is [a]of evil.